6 tips that will modify your sex life into a great one

There’s no arguing that “quickie sex” can be arousing, exciting and satisfying. It’s good for when passions override all thought and desire wins. However, most women will agree that the best sexual encounters occur when a man knows and understands the importance of making your lovemaking experience enjoyable.

Too much boredom in your bedroom? Revitalize your sex life with these 6 tips:

Don’t take it personally.

Differences in sexual desire within couples are very common. Although it is hard to have your advances rejected repeatedly without taking it personally, you need to remind yourself that a partner’s lack of interest in sex just may not be about you, your attractiveness, or your qualities as a human being. It may be a matter of a hormone deficiency or other physiological problems—or feelings the person has about himself or herself. Although you undoubtedly want things to change, try to develop a little empathy. Chances are, given the choice, he or she would prefer to feel turned on easily. It’s no picnic to feel disinterested in something your partner thrives on. He or she may feel inadequate, for example. The situation hurts you, but don’t underestimate how painful it is for your partner. Even if he or she acts defensively, your partner probably spends lots of time wondering why things aren’t easier between you. Try to be understanding

Give yourself time.

As you age, your sexual responses slow down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, interruption-free setting for sex. Also, understand that the physical changes in your body mean that you’ll need more time to get aroused and reach orgasm. When you think about it, spending more time having sex isn’t a bad thing, working these physical necessities into your lovemaking routine can open up doors to a new kind of sexual experience.

Make a Plan

When life becomes busy and schedules are hectic, plan for sexual encounters with one another. Some people may find scheduling undesirable, but it all depends on how you look at it. You can make plans just as exciting as spontaneous sex. Flirting throughout the day or specifying a “sex date” can build anticipation. Try to set the mood in advance. If you want to have good sex at night, start the foreplay in the morning. Let your partner know you care and are thinking about them throughout the day with notes, e-mails, texts, phone calls, hugs, or other flirtatious gestures.

Watch porn together

Discuss with your partner the type of porn you both like. Consider showing these to each other or search for one together that you can both compromise on. It’s usually used in private, which makes watching porn with your partner feel even more risqué. Porn builds sexual tension and piques curiosity, but don’t limit yourselves to screens. See what happens when you take turns reading erotic literature to each other. Even if you break down in giggles before you turn the page, you’re on the right track. Laughter is a great way to spice things up, too.

Include foreplay

There is no great sexual experience without foreplay. It’s a fact: Women typically need foreplay to have good sex. That’s a really good reason not to cut corners with it. Foreplay is really important for most women because they tend to take a longer time to get into the mood. Usually its women who complain that men want to skip to the main course of intercourse, but often they need more time to open up. Foreplay helps lubrication flow and makes intercourse all the more pleasurable.

Love yourself too

We talk a lot about body image, and it’s for a good reason. Feeling good about yourself improves more areas of your life than just your self-esteem, and it’s bound to improve your sex life significantly. Just think about it. If you could be naked with your partner and feel proud of your body, how much weight and stress that would lift off of your shoulders? It’s amazing, and it’s so underrated.


Sometimes keeping passion alive in the bedroom has nothing to do with sex at all. Take a tennis lesson, try a new restaurant, and go on a hike together. “When you do a fun activity that’s not sexual with your partner, you’ll pay attention to one-another, which helps build desire, and that’s a form of foreplay,” says Amy Levine, certified sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure.

The 9 Testosterone Commandments

Do you want to boost testosterone levels? Discover the diet and lifestyle do’s and don’ts that can help you achieve optimal testosterone levels.

  1. Thou Shalt Engage In Regular Physical Exercise

Exercise and movement of any kind are essential for a long and healthy life and this is how we as humans evolved.

Hunting, farming and manual labour have kept us moving in the past and it is only in recent times that we have stopped dead in our tracks in terms of physical activity, driving everywhere and slouched over computers all day.

This is devastating for testosterone levels and health in general.

Any exercise boosts testosterone levels in all age groups and on top of this, physical activity will build muscle, improve cardiovascular health and help to maintain joint mobility.

If you are overweight, then shedding some excess fat will also help to boost your testosterone.

If you are totally sedentary then you may already be caught in the negative spiral and this can be tough to break out of. The key is consistency and just getting started. Commit to doing something 3 times a week, to begin with – even for just 15 minutes.

It can be a bodyweight circuit in your living room or a 15-minute walk around the block. If you are a more advanced trainer then regular weight training is the best way to boost testosterone levels.


  1. Thou shalt spend time in the sun

Vitamin D is an important hormone in the production of testosterone, and while it isn’t easy to do very often while living in the UK, being exposed to the sun can increase your vitamin D levels.

Vitamin D is also found in several foods such as oily fish, eggs and cheese, or it can be taken as a supplement. Studies have shown that men who supplemented with vitamin D over the course of one year showed an increase in testosterone levels.

  1. Thou Shalt Minimise Stress

Managing stress, optimising mood and laughing often will all improve levels of naturally produced testosterone and allow the body and mind to thrive.

This is easier said than done, but persistent stress and abnormally high levels of cortisol will cause testosterone levels to bottom out.

On top of this, high stress can cause us to make poor food choices which will in turn cause increased body weight which will also negatively affect testosterone levels


  1. Thou Shalt Get Enough Sleep

Adequate sleep is essential for many reasons and prioritising that 8 hours is extremely important for health. Getting less than the required amount of sleep each night will cause testosterone levels to drop and in the modern age of smartphones and 24-hour accessibility, this isn’t uncommon. As with exercise, diet and mindset, sleep works in synergy and a bad night’s sleep can make you more likely to eat poorly, making it more difficult to cope with stress and make the motivation for exercise more difficult.



The easiest and most accessible trick for getting a good night’s sleep in the modern world is simply to leave your smartphone outside of your bedroom at night. Apart from the blue light that the screen emits (even in night mode), you have the mental stimulation of social media and potential stress that a late-night email can cause (when you can’t do anything about it).


  1. Thou Shalt Eat A Clean, Healthy Diet

Eating a balanced diet made up largely of the whole, single-ingredient foods including all the main macronutrients (carbohydrates, fats and protein) can contribute to healthy testosterone levels.

Chronic over or under-eating or extreme dieting can be bad for your testosterone levels. As well as the main macronutrients, eating a wide variety of vegetables will ensure that you get enough vitamins and minerals to support testosterone production.


  1. Thou Shalt ‘Just Say No’ To Drugs

Alcohol, Androgenic Anabolic Steroids and smoking can all have a negative impact on your testosterone production.

The use of anabolic steroids, which are often used for bodybuilding, can cause excessive levels of testosterone in the body resulting in a hormone imbalance.

If levels are too high the testes can shut down their testosterone production which can be permanent, even after the discontinuation of these drugs.

  1. Thou Shalt Remember That MORE Isn’t Always Better

With the continued ambiguity of “optimal testosterone levels”, men can become obsessed with chasing high levels, often resulting in side effects from having too much testosterone in the body.

It is important to remember that an individual’s optimal level of testosterone can be different to your own and the trick is not to overdo it when trying to boost testosterone.

  1. Remember That You Grow When You Rest

The Men’s Health Clinic see a lot of men become frustrated with their progress because they are eating healthy, balanced diets and they are committed to an exercise routine, but they are not seeing the results they want. However, In order to really grow, you must rest your body. Exercise is a catabolic process, not anabolic. Whilst exercise causes a spike in testosterone, you need to be in a state of rest for it to exert its effects. It’s all about balance.

  1. Though shalt honour thy doctor

It comes as no surprise that men do not welcome the thought of visiting their doctors when they start to show signs of being unwell. A recent study of 1000 men found that three quarters will avoid going to the doctors when showing signs of an illness as they don’t have the time or don’t think it is important .


However, if you are experiencing symptoms of low testosterone and they persist after implementing diet and lifestyle changes, it is important to seek advice from your doctor, men’s health clinic.