5 Relationship’s Love Languages

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Relationships, like any other thing in this life, are both vital and complicated. When two people come together to create a future with someone they love, they can find themselves up against a number of elements or adversaries that make it hard for them to stay connected and true. By learning how to define the way they love, and the things which they need to feel loved, they can better protect their relationship and better navigate the chaos that is modern day life.

The “Five Love Languages” is the name of a model for couples communication, and also a related series of books by Gary Chapman. Chapman believes that people respond best to one of 5 “love languages,” and that if you want to be heard by your partner, it’s best to communicate in their “primary” love language, and also their “secondary” love language.   The love languages are:

Gifts

This one may sound like it’s materialistic or reserved for gold diggers. But if this is your #1 language, don’t question your character. It actually has more to do with the thought behind the gift than the gift itself. You appreciate the thoughtfulness behind gift giving (whether it’s a grand birthday present or bringing home your favourite magazine from a trip to the drugstore). All gifts, whether small and daily or big and grand, remind you how much you matter to your partner and how much thoughtfulness and effort they think you’re worth. Missed birthdays or thoughtless gifts are your relationship nightmare because it makes you feel like your partner doesn’t care about you

Quality time

Quality time relates to spending time together. Whether it’s watching a movie together, going for a walk, or having a date night, as a couple you really have to value doing things together. What you do is less important than the fact that you are spending time together focused on each other, so give your partner your undivided attention. Some couples think they are spending time together when, in reality, they are only living in close proximity. Those who value quality time may also feel a strong need for quality conversations. They want eye contact and focused attention when they speak. They aren’t always looking for solutions when they express their feelings, they just want to feel heard.

Words of affirmation

A lot of people feel loved when their partner expresses words of affirmation to them. Affirmations serve as reminders to someone that all is well in the relationship. Those who speak this language feel supported when they hear things like, “You are so beautiful” or “I really appreciate you”. This can be expressed in many different ways, whether that’s via text, a letter, a spoken word, or a card.

In the case of this love language, words speak louder than actions. The focus is on using language that allows your partner to feel that they are appreciated, desired, and cherished.

Acts of service

For anyone with acts of service as their love language, actions speak louder than words. For people this love language resonates with, words and gifts might seem empty. “What proves more important is a partner putting forth the effort to make life a little easier and sweeter. Cooking a meal, running an errand without being asked, remembering to take care of the small details of life in a way that shows their beloved they are seen and loved.” Doing things you anticipate your partner wants or needs demonstrates how much you value and care for them.

Physical touch

First thing’s first: Physical touch doesn’t always equate to being sexual physical touch sounds simple enough when applied to sex, but many people don’t realize that touch is, in fact, a language and that it communicates intention. It is important for a person with this love language to understand their own needs and boundaries around touch, and then communicate them to their partner. For this, it helps to think of touch as a spectrum: On the one side you have platonic touch, and on the opposite side you have sexual touch, with varying types and degrees of touch in between.”

Chapman’s theory is that most people communicate in their primary love language while neglecting their partner’s. So a partner who is into gifts might have trouble showing their love to a partner who is into acts of service, unless they change their approach.

6 Reasons Resentment Creeps Into Your Relationships and how to fix it

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Have you ever felt taken advantage of, or dismissed, by your partner, family member, teacher or boss? That’s resentment rearing its ugly head.

At first, you feel angry that you’re not being treated fairly or that your needs are being ignored. Over time, this snowballs into disappointment, bitterness and hard feelings.

It’s very difficult to address misunderstandings when you don’t think the other person understands or appreciates you. You get into a tug of war about who’s right and who’s wrong, and egos get in the way.

In this post, we cover six common problems that spark the fires of resentment.

1. Taking advantage of others

If you think your partner is being selfish, first try stepping into their shoes. Ask yourself why they are so intent on getting their own needs met.

Also, note that some people weren’t taught etiquette as kids. Others endured childhood trauma that made them focus on survival, and their own needs, first.

Gently tell your partner how their behaviour makes you feel using “I” statements.

If that doesn’t work, learn to tell your partner “no” confidently and with conviction

2. Always having to be right

 

When someone insists that they’re right all the time, it comes across as arrogant.

If you want me to empty the dishwasher, fold the laundry or manage the toothpaste in a certain way, you’re imposing your views of the world onto me. There are many paths up the mountain.

Defend your right to do things your own way. Speak up quickly; don’t let the feelings fester. The longer you wait, the more resentment is likely to build and explode in an argument over something insignificant.

3. Unrealistic expectations

Considering other people’s nature and habits with clear eyes can spare you emotional turmoil.

Let’s say you expect your significant other to buy you a romantic gift, and they don’t. If it’s not in their personality to do something like that, you’ve set yourself up for feeling resentful.

Try adjusting your expectations instead. Your partner may be showing appreciation in a different way.

4. Feeling put down

Thoughtless remarks and taunts rankle. Know your trigger buttons. Some people trigger our anger without even knowing it.

Considering the person’s intent can head off resentment before it takes root.

But if other person knows your triggers and intentionally hits them, your resentment may be a message.

Don’t ignore the messenger. If you feel repeatedly discounted by a friend, this may be a sign that they are not a good person to have in your life.

5. Not being heard

Does your significant other seem miles away when you’re chatting in the morning? Don’t take it so personally. Listening is incredibly difficult. Expect that you’ll have to repeat your message.

Send a voice mail or text message later, and recap what you wanted to say.

6. Always being late

You may feel that because someone is never on time, they don’t care about you.

It’s tempting to show up late for them, but that only adds fuel to the fire. Gently point out how their lateness makes you feel, and what you need.

Then set firm limits. Tell the other person how long you’ll wait, and have a backup plan in place in case they’re late.

A change in thinking can also help. Try to view the other person’s lateness as a reflection on them, and not you. Being late may have less to do with respecting your time and more to do with their own habits or anxiety.

Always running into the house for one more thing, or getting distracted by inconsequential things just before you have to leave may be an attempt to ease anxiety.

You can decide not to be emotionally injured or roughed up by any of that.

 

Should you leave the relationship, or not?

What should you do when resentment sours a relationship?

There’s no question that you should sever ties if you’re being abused emotionally or physically.

But the lines are less clear when resentment has been building for lesser concerns.

 

“For example, if you put a high priority on family, or if work pays your bills, then you may have to learn to tolerate others’ displays of humanness,”

Practising empathy can help. “Acceptance and forgiveness reduce resentment”

 

Can people ‘learn’ empathy?

It’s possible to learn to be a more empathetic partner and to let go of problem behaviours. But you have to be willing to change.

A good therapist can show you how to accept the discomfort associated with change — and offer you options you may not have considered and a perspective you may not have seen.

Most people go to therapy for a little while, then practice like crazy afterwards. And it’s in the practising like crazy that people grow.

Practice being skilled at quickly getting to the root of a relationship problem — before anger, misery or bitterness creep in.

Then, once you address an issue, don’t rehash it, consider it a learning moment to use in the future. Don’t look backwards. You aren’t going that way anymore.

6 tips that will modify your sex life into a great one

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There’s no arguing that “quickie sex” can be arousing, exciting and satisfying. It’s good for when passions override all thought and desire wins. However, most women will agree that the best sexual encounters occur when a man knows and understands the importance of making your lovemaking experience enjoyable.

Too much boredom in your bedroom? Revitalize your sex life with these 6 tips:

Don’t take it personally.

Differences in sexual desire within couples are very common. Although it is hard to have your advances rejected repeatedly without taking it personally, you need to remind yourself that a partner’s lack of interest in sex just may not be about you, your attractiveness, or your qualities as a human being. It may be a matter of a hormone deficiency or other physiological problems—or feelings the person has about himself or herself. Although you undoubtedly want things to change, try to develop a little empathy. Chances are, given the choice, he or she would prefer to feel turned on easily. It’s no picnic to feel disinterested in something your partner thrives on. He or she may feel inadequate, for example. The situation hurts you, but don’t underestimate how painful it is for your partner. Even if he or she acts defensively, your partner probably spends lots of time wondering why things aren’t easier between you. Try to be understanding

Give yourself time.

As you age, your sexual responses slow down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, interruption-free setting for sex. Also, understand that the physical changes in your body mean that you’ll need more time to get aroused and reach orgasm. When you think about it, spending more time having sex isn’t a bad thing, working these physical necessities into your lovemaking routine can open up doors to a new kind of sexual experience.

Make a Plan

When life becomes busy and schedules are hectic, plan for sexual encounters with one another. Some people may find scheduling undesirable, but it all depends on how you look at it. You can make plans just as exciting as spontaneous sex. Flirting throughout the day or specifying a “sex date” can build anticipation. Try to set the mood in advance. If you want to have good sex at night, start the foreplay in the morning. Let your partner know you care and are thinking about them throughout the day with notes, e-mails, texts, phone calls, hugs, or other flirtatious gestures.

Watch porn together

Discuss with your partner the type of porn you both like. Consider showing these to each other or search for one together that you can both compromise on. It’s usually used in private, which makes watching porn with your partner feel even more risqué. Porn builds sexual tension and piques curiosity, but don’t limit yourselves to screens. See what happens when you take turns reading erotic literature to each other. Even if you break down in giggles before you turn the page, you’re on the right track. Laughter is a great way to spice things up, too.

Include foreplay

There is no great sexual experience without foreplay. It’s a fact: Women typically need foreplay to have good sex. That’s a really good reason not to cut corners with it. Foreplay is really important for most women because they tend to take a longer time to get into the mood. Usually its women who complain that men want to skip to the main course of intercourse, but often they need more time to open up. Foreplay helps lubrication flow and makes intercourse all the more pleasurable.

Love yourself too

We talk a lot about body image, and it’s for a good reason. Feeling good about yourself improves more areas of your life than just your self-esteem, and it’s bound to improve your sex life significantly. Just think about it. If you could be naked with your partner and feel proud of your body, how much weight and stress that would lift off of your shoulders? It’s amazing, and it’s so underrated.

 Conclusion

Sometimes keeping passion alive in the bedroom has nothing to do with sex at all. Take a tennis lesson, try a new restaurant, and go on a hike together. “When you do a fun activity that’s not sexual with your partner, you’ll pay attention to one-another, which helps build desire, and that’s a form of foreplay,” says Amy Levine, certified sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure.

Your pain matters because you matter

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If we live in a traumatic state for an extended period of time we want relief more than anything else. Because of the lack of education around trauma we rarely hear the words, “what you are experiencing is quite normal considering what’s been done to you.” That lack of affirmation leaves us vulnerable thinking something is severely wrong with how we do things. That’s not true. The truth is our body offers a response to what it’s registered. So, those responses are coming from a place of pain and awareness.

Very few of us have been given permission to be honest about our pain. Very few of us have had access to the proper help to expose the trauma. Very few of us had the language to describe what’s going on inside of us. But many are finding solace, that this painful part of the journey is shared.

How many of us have been misdiagnosed while dismissing trauma? How many of us believed we were the problem? How many of us believed that what happened to us was not that bad, and someone else could have handled it better?

These are the after-effects of the trauma doubling down and keeping us exposed to the rawest parts. But then we look out and through our searching, our hunger, our need to be understood. We find that not only are we not alone, but there are thousands who speak that language inside of us.

Those words and phrases that only make sense to someone who knows great pain. Those moments that define how our lives were altered, but we’ve needed a lifeline to preserve what’s left.

Here are a few things to reflect on to help you on your healing journey.

  1. It’s not humanly possible to convince someone to abuse you. People are abused because of an abuser.
  2. It is common and beautiful to be conflicted and take on the blame if you were abused by someone you loved. You still did not create that abuse.
  3. The conflict you may be experiencing internally is a much-needed dialogue of deep breaths and awareness of you looking back at your younger self and saying “You are mine. What they lacked in safety for you, I will restore.

Now, here we are. We are bravely, boldly and unapologetically telling our stories. That may not be the details. You may not even know their names. But there is an awareness and a new era of people who are linking arms and learning about their unprocessed bravery to survive.

The more you validate those untold stories, the more we break down the social oppression that demands we show up polished and presentable. We are learning that polished and presentable can’t hold a torch to authentic and full of grace.

How to Enlarge Your Penis Yourself – A Safe Natural Method

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Penis enlargement has been around for years now and the industry is still waxing stronger. Although there are lots of scam products and programs still available that claim to give you increased size but at the end fails.

It is so painful and demoralizing thinking about the time and money you have put into such product or program. This post will show you how to enlarge your penis yourself, the safe and natural way.

Exercises are the best natural way to increase your penis enlargement. Just as your body tissues can be increased through exercises, your penis too can also be increased through exercises.

However, the kind of exercise differs. You can go for outdoor jogging, walking on treadmills, skipping or even dancing just to exercise the body. But for penis exercise, it is not the same. The natural exercise used to enlarge the penis is called jelqing.

Enlarging the penis through this natural method simply means: you should not expect an overnight result and also you should be prepared to practice it consistently. Patience is the watchword here.

 

Practice the below jelqing routine consistently and you will see how your penis will grow.

 

  1. Run warm water on a clean towel and wrap that warm towel on your penis for about a minute or two. This is called a warm up exercise.

 

  1. Bring yourself to semi erection and apply some lubricant on your hand and penis.

 

  1. Grab the base of your shaft between the thumb and first finger of one hand like making an OK symbol and move them upward towards the base of the head of your penis. You must not do it in a rush just take about 1-2 seconds before stopping at the head of your penis.

 

  1. Repeat the whole process all over again starting from the base and maintaining the same pressure.

 

  1. You can repeat this for about 5 minutes. You can increase the time and repetition when you get more used to this practice.

 

  1. The last process is to perform the warm down exercise. Just like the warm up exercise, wrap a warm towel over your penis for about 1 or 2 minutes. You can also use the oil to massage your penis lightly for about 1 or 2 minutes.

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6 Things You Should Be Doing To the Clitoris

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In this post we will take you through things you should be doing to your woman’s clitoris.

When it comes to making a person with a vulva orgasm, most folks need more than plain old penetration.

Yes your penis is great and all, but only a quarter of vulva owners routinely come during vaginal intercourse, meaning that a lot of people need some form of clitoral stimulation in order to climax.

 

Packed with nerve endings, the clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones. It has around 8,000 nerve endings, which is double the number in a penis.

So what can you do to give your partner a mind-blowing clitoral orgasm?

Well, for starters, make sure you know where to find the clitoris: at the top of the vulva, just under the spot where the inner labia meet. The clitoris also extends up to 5 inches inside the body.

 

And now, to stimulate the clitoris? If not sure ask your partner!

Surprise your partner tonight with one—or all—of these clitoral stimulation tricks, using not just your tongue, but also your lips, fingers, and toys. And don’t forget: there are a number of sex positions where you can reach around and stimulate your partner’s clit with your fingers or a vibrator during penetration. There’s no reason why penetration and clit stimulation have to be separate; the two can (and should!) exist in perfect harmony.

 

  1. Pick a Side

When it comes to clitoral stimulation, 4 out of 10 women have a preferred side,  Ask her if there’s a side she likes better—and if she’s not sure, experiment on both.

 

  1. Use your imagination.

When you’re flicking your tongue over her clitoris, imagine you are painting a fence from top to bottom, then move your tongue side to  side.

  1. Suck and Nibble

Instead of just licking her, use your lips and tongue to suck on her clit.

The entire vulva consists of sensitive nerve fibers. So being able to suck on the glans or the head of the clit and lightly nibble on her inner and outer labia, or suck a little on labia, will stimulate the nerve fibers.

The sucking will also lead to increased vasocongestion, or more blood flow, to the vulva and the clitoris.

 

  1. Don’t Forget the Shaft

While a lot of attention is spent on the tip of the clitoris—the part located at the top of the vulva—it also has two “legs” that extend up to five inches inside the body, known as the “shaft.”

 

Slide your fingers to either side of her clitoral shaft. Pull and push the clitoral hood across the clitoris and move in circles, diagonals, and spontaneous un-choreographed fashions so as to stay unpredictable.

 

  1. Play the Harmonica

Once your partner is in the midst of an orgasm, add some oral vibration to her experience.

 

Make your lips into an O and take her clitoris in your mouth. Then make humming sounds as you suck on her clit, as if you are playing the harmonica, so that she can feel the warm, wet vibrations.

  1. Draw circles

In study 3 out of 4 women said they love it when you trace little circles on or around the clit. You can use your tongue, your finger, or two fingers—or all of the above.

It is noted that some women prefer the clockwise movement – which is when you trace from the bottom of th

5 natural ways to overcome Weak Erection

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Can you still keep it up as you did when you were 15 years old? Run as fast as you did when you were 2o years old?

Probably not.

But even as we grow old, there are still ways to stay in the game and enjoy it. Same stays true for sex as It is for another thing.

You can experience Weak Erection for many reasons. Sometimes it can be as simple as a result of side effect from a particular medication. But for most men, the cause is more complex. It can be as a result of diabetes, surgeries, vascular disease, neurological disease and more.

Whether you currently suffering from Weak Erection or are hoping to sidestep this condition, try these tips to overcome ED for better health and better sex life.

 

  1. Start walking.

According to one Harvard study, just 30 minutes of walking a day was linked with a 41% drop in risk for Weak Erection.

Other research suggests that moderate exercise can help restore sexual performance in obese middle-aged men with Weak Erection.

 

  1. Eat right.

A study shows that eating a diet rich in natural foods like fruit, vegetables, whole grains, and fish — with fewer red and processed meat and refined grains — decreased the likelihood of Weak Erection.

 

  1. Pay attention to your vascular health.

High blood pressure, high blood sugar, high cholesterol, and high triglycerides can all damage arteries in the heart causing a heart attack, in the brain causing stroke and leading to the penis causing Weak Erection.

An expanding waistline also contributes. Check with your doctor to find out whether your vascular system is in good shape or needs a tune-up through lifestyle changes and, if necessary, medications.

  1. Size matters, so get slim and stay slim.

A trim waistline is one good defence, a man with a 42-inch waist is 50% more likely to have Weak Erection than one with a 32-inch waist. Losing weight can help fight Weak Erection, so getting to a healthy weight and staying there is another good strategy for avoiding or fixing Weak Erection. Obesity raises risks for vascular disease and diabetes, two major causes of Weak Erection. And excess fat interferes with several hormones that may be part of the problem as well.

  1. Move a muscle, but we’re not talking about your biceps.

A strong pelvic floor enhances rigidity during erections and helps keep blood from leaving the penis by pressing on a key vein.

In a British trial, three months of twice-daily sets of Kegel exercises (which strengthen these muscles), combined with biofeedback and advice on lifestyle changes — quitting smoking, losing weight, limiting alcohol — worked far better than just advice on lifestyle changes.

 

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Men’s Health Facts [Infographic]

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Men’s Health Facts [Infographic]

Do you know what causes most deaths to men relative to women? What reduce men lifespan and more. Men’s Health Clinic Sandton share stats and facts you facts about men’s health.

Check out the infographic for more detail.

7 Ways Being Thinner Improves Your Sex Life!

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Yes, being thinner will improve your sex life.

This doesn’t mean you have to be ‘skinny’ to have a good time in bed, it means that losing that extra fat that’s weighing you down will make your sex life more enjoyable and adventurous!

Whether you like it kinky or plain ol’ vanilla, you can’t discount the benefits of a proper diet on your desire to have sex and your performance while you do! Improving the moves is up to you, but helping you get there…well, that’s something we can help you achieve.

  1. More Confident

Dropping a few kilos will help revive your libido, giving you a renewed desire to get frisky which honestly is half the battle. Losing about 2.5kg will make you feel proud of your accomplishment and confident in your body.

When we feel more confident about how we look, it makes us want to have sex more.

Simply wanting to have more sex will put you’re partner in the mood more frequently. It doesn’t matter if it’s the first 5kg you need to lose or the only 5. The confidence that comes with losing weight will put you back in the mood for loving!

  1. More Adventurous

Another benefit of losing unnecessary kilos?

Exercising and losing weight helps you maintain muscles flexibility, which is useful when you want to try different positions. Losing any amount of weight will put less strain on your muscles, allowing them to move more freely.

Greater muscle flexibility means that you can now try all those pretzel-like positions the Kama-Sutra. If your sex life has been mundane, make it more exciting by getting more aerobic exercise.

  1. More Stamina

In additions to making you an overall healthier person, losing weight through a healthy diet and exercise gives you more energy. Eating high fat protein along with fresh fruits & vegetables makes you feel full for a long time and energetic, compared to mid-afternoon snack of greasy foods and sugary drinks.

With more energy means you will have more to give in the bedroom, you can have sex for longer periods of time, thus burning more calories while doing it.

  1. Better Performance

Losing weight is a great cure for obesity-related illness like high cholesterol, diabetes and high blood pressure. All these conditions can cause physical sexual dysfunctions in men and women.

In men, high blood pressure and diabetes can shut down the arteries – which control the blood flow – in the penis which you kind of need for an awesome performance between the sheets.

  1. Greater Arousal

When our bodies stray from what doctors consider a healthy body weight our hormones tend to get ‘out of whack’. Unbalanced hormones can make you feel depressed or anxious, but more importantly, they affect your desire to become aroused.

A healthy diet with regular physical activity will help you lose weight and it’ll balance out your hormones, making you feel happier and hornier! By adopting a lifestyle that will help you burn fat, you’ll want to have sex more and when the time comes for you to actually have sex…it will be easier for you to become aroused.

Arousal is the first step for a fun night of sex! If cannot get it up call us for help.

  1. Attitude is everything!

When you take the first step to living a healthier life style you will, without a doubt, feel better about yourself and life in general. This means that you won’t worry as much about how you look in this position or from that angle, because you are a ‘work in progress’ and you’ll be more likely to go with the flow.

Having a go with the flow attitude in bed will allow you to relax and simply enjoy yourself. It’s a known fact that its much sexier to have a little fun in the sack than have mediocre self-conscious sex.

  1. More Sex

I think we can all agree that having more sex is a good thing, right? Well losing weight can help you achieve just that. You’ll want to have more sex when you have less weight on your knees and hips. You can diminish or eliminate that pain by shedding the extra fat.

When you can have sex on a whim, you’ll want to and guess what? You will!

Just imagine all the time you’ll have to actually have sex rather than make sure you’ve got your blood pressure, cholesterol, diabetes or heart medication

9 Reasons Why People Cry After SEX

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Have you cried after having sex? Your partner? Know it is perfectly normal and you not alone.

It might be happy tears, tears of relief or a bit of pensive sadness for not reason. Tears during or after sex can be a purely physical reaction.

In clinical terms crying after sex is known as postcoital dysphoria (PCD), while crying occasionally during sex called postcoital tristesse(PCT). The PCD symptoms may include tearfulness, sadness, and irritability after consensual sex, even if it was perfectly satisfying.

PCD can happen to anyone regardless of gender or sexual orientation. And it does necessarily have to involve an orgasm.

In a study conducted in 2018 using anonymous questionnaire researchers found that of 1208 males, 41% experienced PCD. Up to 4% said it was a regular thing.

Below I will outline the reasons why someone might cry after sex and what to do if it happens to you or your partner.

  1. Happiness

You probably experienced tears of joy before. A range of emotions can evoke crying and its not a bad thing. It can be at your graduation, or at the birth of a child. Same thing can happened during or after sex.

  1. Being overwhelmed by the scenario

Sometimes you get lost in the moment, as some can rev up tension and create an emotional roller coaster.

Tears may mean you are simply overwhelmed by the thrill of it all.

  1. Being overwhelmed by your body’s response

Sometimes you might cry beacise you just got the biggest orgasm of your life or first experience with multiple orgasms.

Intense physical pleasure can overwhelms you and it wont be a surprise that you end up crying.

Conversely, you might be overwhelmed by your body’s lack of response. If you have been looking forward to great sex and do not get the ending you want, you might be frustrated and tense enough to cry.

  1. Pain

There are many reason why you might experience pain with sex.

Painful intercourse, during or after can be due to:

  • Lack of lubrication
  • Trauma or irritation of the genitals
  • Urinary tract or vaginal infections
  • Skin conditions near genitals
  • Vaginal muscle spasms – vaginismus
  • Congenital abnormalities

 

Physical pain associated with sex can be treated, so make an appointment with your doctor to get it fixed.

  1. Anxiety

Crying is a natural reaction to stress, fear and anxiety. When you feel anxious in general, its hard to put that aside even when having sex.

Sometimes you might have performance anxiety. After sex you might be worried about whether you satisfied your partner or whether you lived up to expectations.

  1. Shame or Guilt

There is a lot of reasons you might feel ashamed after sex that it can make you cry.

There are a lot of reasons you might feel such shame or guilt after sex that it makes you cry.

You might be uncomfortable with what you see as animal behaviour – sex, or lack of impulse control. You could have body image issues or dread the prospect of being seen naked.

Shame and/or guilt after sex can also be residual effects of other issues within the relationship that follow you into the bedroom.

  1. Confusion

Confusion after sex isn’t all that unusual. It may be due to the sex itself.

You told them you dislike something but they did it anyway?

You thought you were giving pleasure but they’re obviously unsatisfied or upset?

Unresolved issues and emotional confusion from a relationship can invade your sex life. Sex doesn’t always turn out great. Sometimes one or both of you are left confused and disappointed.

  1. Depression

If you find yourself crying frequently it could be a sign of depression or other mental health condition that should be addressed.

Other signs of depression can include:

  • sadness
  • frustration, irritability, or anger
  • anxiety
  • difficulty sleeping, restlessness, or fatigue
  • loss of concentration or memory
  • appetite changes
  • unexplained aches and pains
  • loss of interest in normal activities, including sex

  1. Triggering Past Trauma or Abuse

If you’re a survivor of sexual assault, certain movements or positions may trigger painful memories.

This can make you feel particularly vulnerable and tears would be an understandable reaction.

If this has become a frequent problem, you may want to take a break from sex. Consider seeing a qualified therapist who can help you work on coping skills.

The bottom line is crying after sex isn’t unusual and, it can be a sign of deeper issues [some of them above] that needs to be addressed.

If this happens regularly, you may find it helpful to speak with a therapist about it. They can help unpack the reasons for your tears and potentially work through any underlying concerns.