Getting over your shyness may seem impossible right now, but with a little effort and the desire to be more outgoing with the opposite sex then, you can definitely overcome shyness.
It is important to know that the fears you feel when shyness hits you are typically always much worse than the reality of the situation.
Below, I’ve listed xyz simple steps to overcoming your shyness. These aren’t magic solutions, but practice these steps to and over time, your shyness will fade away and you will be left wondering what all the fuss was about in the first place.
Role play your way into situations that make you anxious.
This may sound silly but take time out alone to play-act situations that you get really nervous about.
Pretend that you are talking to that guy or girl that makes you shy. Be that outgoing person that you wish to be.
This play-acting will send messages to your sub-consciousness and help your inner-self change.
Dress to impress.
Other step to consider is to dress to impress, even if nobody is looking.
Always look your best.
This does amazing things to help you feel good about yourself and overcome shyness.
Fake it until you make it!
This is an infamous saying in the sales world. In other words; mimic or act like someone whom you admire and has all the personality traits you wish to have.
This is a great way to start teaching yourself new behavioural habits.
Put yourself in their shoes and play out real life situations as though you were them. This may sound crazy, but it does work!
Ask yourself why you are shy.
Be honest with yourself. What are your real fears? What do you think people see when they talk with you? Answering these questions will help guide you into separating reality with what you are mistakenly perceiving it to be.
Work on building your self-confidence.
Yes, this will take effort on your part by reading books on the subject or listening to motivational tapes, watching videos online and talking to someone about it.
Use daily affirmations.
Daily affirmations and positive mind influence can be very powerful tools to improve yourself.
This takes work but the power to change your shyness to confidence can come simply from saying things to yourself every day like “I like myself!” or “I am a winner!”, etc.
Learn to take risks.
How many times did you just want to go up to someone and tell them how beautiful they were, or how they impressed you with their clothes.
As a daily exercise do this: Each day of the week go up to a total stranger and say something nice. It could be something as innocent as complimenting a pretty girl on her hair or a guy with his shirt. Do not worry about the outcome, do not worry about what they say, just do it!